Random stupid things on your mind. Post them.

[analog kid]

The show is on my long "to watch" list.

Have you seen Dallas Buyers Club onan? I can't work out whether McConaughey's acting is worthy of an Oscar is was it just because of his dramatic weight loss? If he had played the roll exactly the same but without the weight loss would we even notice him? Or is it a combination of both?

I haven't seen McConaughey's other recent roles, but I don't think anyone is disputing that he's good in True Detective. The gauntness helps with the believability of the character though.

[West of the Rockies]

I don't want to start a new thread for this (too self-serving), but have any of you ever been involved with someone who has Borderline Peronality Disorder?  I know any free advice I receive here is, by definition, not worth the paper it's (not) written on, but I just became aware that someone I sort of recently began to see has a rather severe form of BPD.  The wild mood swings, being one moment idealized and the next shredded, the impulsivity, and much more is all just so draining and a little scary. 

Anyone have any thoughts?

[wr250]

well i have experience with a full on schizophrenic (diagnosed as such) . not knowing the situation i dont know what to tell you.

[West of the Rockies]

Well, I don't want to bore everyone with a long story of my personal experience with this woman; intead, I am hoping a few readers here may know what Borderline Personality Disorder already is and have some observations based on personal experience.  What I can say very briefly is that this woman exhibits wild mood swings, first idealizes me (believe me, undeservingly!) then tells me what a dreadful person I am.  She is extremely impulsive.  She is on anxiety meds and was abandoned as a child by her mother (who herself was institutionalized repeatedly with various mental health problems).

I suppose I am wondering if anyone here has left a significant other with BPD, how difficult it was, what is the best path to take....

[analog kid]

I had a friend with BPD, who came over occasionally, but she could hide it in the short durations I was around her. But I would hear the stories from the guy who was dating her. Their relationship was highly tumultuous, but he's no saint. He broke that relationship off and left the state.

Here's a section on Reddit for BPD, but it's mainly sufferers talking to themselves about their issues. This guy just went through a breakup.

[onan]

It's easy to talk about dealing with someone with BPD. The difficulty is dealing with one without the training to effectively cope with that disorder.

Keep well defined boundaries. Do not rescue someone from their behavior. Consequences are the best learning tool. Be clear in your interactions. Do not engage out of feelings of guilt.

For the love of god, do not become emotionally involved.

[Heather Wade]

O dude laid out the best points to keep in mind.  I have my own issues (shocker, I know), and recognize when I am having an episode.  At those times, I kindly remove myself from others because I know no one wants to deal with the bs of it all.

I had a friend who was pretty severe bi-polar and bpd.  What you say about one minute loving you, the next minute hating you is so true.  Finally (not being a doc or having proper skills to deal), I would just tell her, "Dude, you're cycling again, you're manic," and would just burn a j with her.  Seemed to relax her.  Also, distractions saved me every time.  I'd change the subject to, "Have you ever heard this song?" or "Let's go get coffee," anything to take her off of what she was talking about. 

It's a fine line between listening, and getting emotionally involved.  Boundaries are critical to ensuring your own sanity.  Sucks to deal with this crap all alone, though.  Offer an ear, but don't let her take an inch, which will quickly turn into a mile.  Remind her she's not alone, but that she has to solve her own problems.  Giving advice is tricky, bpd is likely to blame you up and down later on if your advice doesn't work out for her.  After listening, I would ask, "So, what do you think you should do about (fill in the blank)?"  Which would cause her to come up with her own solutions. 

Alas, she eventually disappeared, and I have no idea what ever happened to her. 

[PB the Deplorable]

... someone I sort of recently began to see has a rather severe form of BPD... draining and a little scary. 

Anyone have any thoughts?

If the purpose of dating is to find someone compatible, and this isn't what you want to sign up for, don't.

[FallenSeraph]

If you guys have eBay accounts and a minute, could you please go to my listing and "Watch" it so it looks like a hot, exciting item? 

http://www.ebay.com/itm/331130940088

Thank you!

HOLY COW someone just bought my doll.

Ugh. I'm trying so hard not to start bawling right now because I really loved her. I honestly didn't think someone would pay that much for her.

In other news, I didn't watch True Detectives tonight because I'm sort of blue and not in the mood so I'm not reading this thread for fear of spoilers.

[jazmunda]

HOLY COW someone just bought my doll.

Ugh. I'm trying so hard not to start bawling right now because I really loved her. I honestly didn't think someone would pay that much for her.

SOOOOOOOO about that 10% for advertising space on The GabCast. When can I reasonably expect a check in the mail?

[Catsmile]

It's easy to talk about dealing with someone with BPD. The difficulty is dealing with one without the training to effectively cope with that disorder.

Keep well defined boundaries. Do not rescue someone from their behavior. Consequences are the best learning tool. Be clear in your interactions. Do not engage out of feelings of guilt.

For the love of god, do not become emotionally involved.

What Onan wrote is good advice.

Here is my take on it in as few words as possible, K.I.S.S. ( Keep It Simple Stupid ) style.

RUN, RUN LIKE HELL, FAR AND FAST!!!

Unless knifes are a good form of foreplay in your eyes... all the hot crazy chick sex isn't worth the "boiling bunnies" she may leave for you to discover. 
http://youtu.be/ecWhXP2jM28

[wr250]

the universe we live in is a computer simulation

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/16/opinion/sunday/is-the-universe-a-simulation.html

[Mind Flayer Monk]

the universe we live in is a computer simulation

Well, they are actually seeking funding (our money) to build technology to prove we are in a simulation.

And if they get it and build it, it will in fact prove, the universe we live in is not a simulation, but really a confidence game.

[ItsOver]

The NY Times is now a simulation of a newspaper.

[wr250]

The NY Times is now a poor simulation of a newspaper.

fixed it for you

[ItsOver]

fixed it for you

Thanks.  Unlike the NY Times, I want to be correct.

[wr250]

i made the top right corner. my 2 seconds of fame

[Yorkshire pud]

i made the top right corner. my 2 seconds of fame

You're in MV's Clique now... and be hated by haters who hate on.

[wr250]

You're in MV's Clique now... and be hated by haters who hate on.

wheeew , im used to haters hating on me  so no big deal.

[Heather Wade]

What Onan wrote is good advice.

Here is my take on it in as few words as possible, K.I.S.S. ( Keep It Simple Stupid ) style.

RUN, RUN LIKE HELL, FAR AND FAST!!!

Unless knifes are a good form of foreplay in your eyes... all the hot crazy chick sex isn't worth the "boiling bunnies" she may leave for you to discover. 
http://youtu.be/ecWhXP2jM28

This, of course, is the much safer option.   

[ItsOver]

i made the top right corner. my 2 seconds of fame

Welcome fellow hater.  Nothing like being honored by a forum dedicated to a serial quitter and a cathartic home for haters of a radio simpleton.  Bless you.

[West of the Rockies]

This, of course, is the much safer option.   

Flight is essentially my objective at this point.  I do not have the resources to try to make things work with this person.  She was sort of the "golden girl" from my early school days (met her in 6th grade almost 40 years ago).  Reconnecting with her was unexpected, briefly intoxicating, then quickly became confusing, stressful, even a little frightening.  Yes, running like hell appears to be the best thing to do.

[Heather Wade]

Flight is essentially my objective at this point.  I do not have the resources to try to make things work with this person.  She was sort of the "golden girl" from my early school days (met her in 6th grade almost 40 years ago).  Reconnecting with her was unexpected, briefly intoxicating, then quickly became confusing, stressful, even a little frightening.  Yes, running like hell appears to be the best thing to do.

It's a bummer, truly.  I can relate.  Your articulation is beautifully accurate, though. 

[wr250]

Flight is essentially my objective at this point.  I do not have the resources to try to make things work with this person.  She was sort of the "golden girl" from my early school days (met her in 6th grade almost 40 years ago).  Reconnecting with her was unexpected, briefly intoxicating, then quickly became confusing, stressful, even a little frightening.  Yes, running like hell appears to be the best thing to do.

seems reasonable, unless they have been watching the lifetime network and singing psychokiller (talking heads), then you may need witness protection lol .

[aldousburbank]

Flight is essentially my objective at this point.  I do not have the resources to try to make things work with this person.  She was sort of the "golden girl" from my early school days (met her in 6th grade almost 40 years ago).  Reconnecting with her was unexpected, briefly intoxicating, then quickly became confusing, stressful, even a little frightening.  Yes, running like hell appears to be the best thing to do.

It is better to flee from love than never to have flown at all.

[b_dubb]

[bateman]

Has anyone heard about this Ian Watkins thing? Holymotheroffuck, the court documents read like 120 Days of Sodom.

I used to really like that band too.

[b_dubb]

Has anyone heard about this Ian Watkins thing? Holymotheroffuck, the court documents read like 120 Days of Sodom.

I used to really like that band too.

What are the chances that twisted shit will survive to see parole? 

[bateman]

What are the chances that twisted shit will survive to see parole? 

I don't have the slightest idea, but he is the reason the death penalty exists.

[TheMan WhoFell ToEarth]

Has anyone heard about this Ian Watkins thing? Holymotheroffuck, the court documents read like 120 Days of Sodom.

I used to really like that band too.

What a sick fuck.