Things That Annoy You

[MV/Liberace!]

Anyone who has to rely on singles websites to meet someone needs to leave their house once in a while.

sound advice.

[Eddie Coyle]

          My parents are total opposites, couldn't be more different. Been married 39 years. Me and my ex, who had a lot in common personality wise, we lasted barely 7 years. The idea there's a "right" way of finding a mate, set up using on computer models and metrics is creepy to me.

        If anybody has had a relationship formed(and sustained)using a dating service that matches personalities, please feel free to rebuke me. Like old people say "when the phone don't ring, I'll know it's you"

[analog kid]

Haven't dated since to 80s. Never been married. No relationships outside of family. I am truly a winner.

Here's me trying to socialize

[McPhallus]

If anybody has had a relationship formed(and sustained)using a dating service that matches personalities, please feel free to rebuke me. Like old people say "when the phone don't ring, I'll know it's you"

Computerized matching doesn't work.  Im convinced that no one has a clue what causes attraction (apart from biological factors like physical traits in women and survival/status characteristics in men). Attraction is never a choice. You have to use your eyes and ears and know how to screen people. Even then, it's all a numbers game.


The problem with sites like flEaHarmony is that, in addition to paying $60 a month, they match you up with women hundreds of miles away and make you feel like an asshole if you turn them down. 

[Juan]

Anyone who has to rely on singles websites to meet someone needs to leave their house once in a while.

I go out occasionally - and quickly realize I've made a mistake.


I used to work for a video production company that did videos for lawyers on people who had been badly injured or killed.  We generally interviewed as many family members as we could.  I was always amazed that first and second wives or first and second husbands looked almost exactly alike.


My first ex-wife and my second ex-wife are completely different.  Except they both came to their senses and divorced me.

[Pragmier]

Anyone who has to rely on singles websites to meet someone needs to leave their house once in a while.

It's not required but it's an effective shot gun approach. Since like everyone says you never can tell, I like to increase the odds.

[Eddie Coyle]

Computerized matching doesn't work.  Im convinced that no one has a clue what causes attraction (apart from biological factors like physical traits in women and survival/status characteristics in men). Attraction is never a choice. You have to use your eyes and ears and know how to screen people. Even then, it's all a numbers game.


The problem with sites like flEaHarmony is that, in addition to paying $60 a month, they match you up with women hundreds of miles away and make you feel like an asshole if you turn them down. 

         A kid I know told me the same thing, he was "matched" with women who lived about 75-100 miles away and the "best" match had 2 kids, something he wasn't expecting. I can't imagine using those services, I barely trust my own judgement, nevermind other's notions.

Here's me trying to socialize

        Good times on drugs. Gary (A)Busey rules. Batshit crazy, but seems to enjoy himself.

[analog kid]

Good times on drugs. Gary (A)Busey rules. Batshit crazy, but seems to enjoy himself.

I hear he takes Fukitol. I'm trying to score some.

[Eddie Coyle]

I hear he takes Fukitol. I'm trying to score some.

          I need about 500mgs of that, stat. I think Dr. Summeroff has some.

[Sardondi]

I hear he takes Fukitol. I'm trying to score some.

Poor Gary. I think he also performed a partial self-lobotomy with his helmetless motorcycle wreck.

As for the computerized dating, part of me would like to think there's a "relationship algorithm", just because it would be neat to see if people could indeed almost guarantee a perfect mate. But if that turned out to be the case, it would be a huge win for the materialists/determinists who say we're nothing more than a bunch of chemical and electric connections, prisoners of our genetic makeup and the polish it got while we were very young. It means in essence we're machines for which every behavior and emotion can be accounted for, and predicted...and ultimately those behaviors and emotions can be controlled and even programmed in some circumstances, which is no secret

But I don't think we can yet say that humans are prisoners of their chemistry, if for no other reason than such an attitude denies the existence of free will. Such an attitude means human intellect as well is a fraud and meaningless.

Still it's fun to see if these computerized dating outfits can be successful. Am I right in thinking eHarmony has come closest to success? I thought I had read this someplace. I know they have vocal opponents who claim various reasons for their opposition. But it appears to me some actually oppose eHarmony because of the evangelical Christianity of founder/owner Neil Clark Warren. I know early on eHarmony wouldn't hook up same-sex couples, which I think they've changed. But I don't understand why Warren's religious beliefs form some basis to oppose him. It would seem that the satisfaction of the people paying money to him is what matters. But then I also know Christos delende est in post-postmodern popular culture, and lie, deny or alibi to do it. I just don't see why it matters to anyone not involved; and why someone in opposition over Warren's religion  feel they may use obvious pretexts to accomplish their goal of thwarting eHarmony.

Otherwise, my 2¢ is the most important factor in making couples, bar none, is commitment. Not similar senses of humor, common childhood experiences, similar tastes in music, etc. Those things help, and can make it much easier, no question. But an absolute commitment going in, knowing that a split just cannot and will not ever happen, under any circumstances, is how relationships last. Now it will simply not be the glorious, sexy mini-movie that ads for erectile dysfunction medicine have become. The relationship won't turn out like the lovely, heartwarming ad for some arthritis pill. It's damned hard. It can be depressing and ugly sometimes, even seemingly pointless, as if the couple has wasted their lives because of their horribly poor choice of mate, etc.

But it's not so. And it's important that it be that way, particularly with kids. Don't believe that stuff about how kids are so resilient and they aren't affected by divorce. They just are. It's a lot better than having to worry about how to survive since Daddy was killed by the wooly mammoth and the bear wants its cave back, but it's still a problem that's better for kids not to have.

So absolute commitment is best. And of course it's possible - people do it all the time. If both sides of a couple have that commitment, then a relationship is locked down forever, end of story. And that's a really good thing. Zeta sermon talk off.

[analog kid]

Getting surgery this Thursday, to remove my gallbladder. All told it'll cost about $6,000. I'll be eating my shoes for a while, so I'm settling on gin and fruit punch. I've lost every side I can sleep on though, and just gaining some sleep modes is going to be heavenly. Also look forward to slouching. It's like I can't concentrate unless I'm slouching.

Here's a nice radio station I found

[analog kid]

Poor Gary. I think he also performed a partial self-lobotomy with his helmetless motorcycle wreck.

Had forgotten about that.

[ItsOver]

Poor Gary. I think he also performed a partial self-lobotomy with his helmetless motorcycle wreck.

Then we have Randy "Good Times" Travis, who doesn't even need clothes for his night-time strolls.

[Eddie Coyle]

Getting surgery this Thursday, to remove my gallbladder. All told it'll cost about $6,000. I'll be eating my shoes for a while, so I'm settling on gin and fruit punch. I've lost every side I can sleep on though, and just gaining some sleep modes is going to be heavenly. Also look forward to slouching. It's like I can't concentrate unless I'm slouching.

           Ouch, I cringed at that. The 6 grand part, I mean. Good luck, but if helps you sleep, then it's worth it. Sleep deprivation is torture. I'm in my 33rd year of it. A lobotomy may be needed for my ability to sleep.

[analog kid]

           Ouch, I cringed at that. The 6 grand part, I mean. Good luck, but if helps you sleep, then it's worth it. Sleep deprivation is torture. I'm in my 33rd year of it. A lobotomy may be needed for my ability to sleep.

Thanks. I'm a veteran of insomnia myself. The best thing I've ever taken for that is Prozac. It treated the OCD very well, which evidently was the underlying cause. I knew it couldn't last forever though. I could probably start meditating, like the "mindfulness" crowd is always pushing, but I'd like to strangle those types more often.

[Eddie Coyle]

Thanks. I'm a veteran of insomnia myself. The best thing I've ever taken for that is Prozac. It treated the OCD very well, which evidently was the underlying cause. I knew it couldn't last forever though. I could probably start meditating, like the "mindfulness" crowd is always pushing, but I'd like to strangle those types more often.

Trazodone made a minor dent, it made me fall asleep within an hour, but I'd still wake up within three. If I sleep 6 consecutive hours...then I'm probably dead. Even in my drunkest days, I still couldn't stay asleep.

      The meditation crowd(my girlfriend is one) really have no idea what it's like. "Shut your mind off, dude". I'm tempted to say "have you ever turned yours on, motherfucker?'  Like I want to have racing thoughts.

[Sardondi]

Getting surgery this Thursday, to remove my gallbladder. All told it'll cost about $6,000. I'll be eating my shoes for a while, so I'm settling on gin and fruit punch. I've lost every side I can sleep on though, and just gaining some sleep modes is going to be heavenly. Also look forward to slouching. It's like I can't concentrate unless I'm slouching....

Good luck with that (and maybe your future junk food eating!).

        Trazodone made a minor dent, it made me fall asleep within an hour, but I'd still wake up within three. If I sleep 6 consecutive hours...then I'm probably dead. Even in my drunkest days, I still couldn't stay asleep.

      The meditation crowd(my girlfriend is one) really have no idea what it's like. "Shut your mind off, dude". I'm tempted to say "have you ever turned yours on, motherfucker?'  Like I want to have racing thoughts.

Yep, I'm with you guys on the sleeplessness - 4 hours steady is reason to celebrate. And the "turn your mind off" crowd is like the "heal thyself" depression-fixers: "Hey, snap out of it". Hey, I hadn't thought of that! Thanks!

Then we have Randy "Good Times" Travis, who doesn't even need clothes for his night-time strolls....

At the risk of diagnosing from afar, I'm going out on a limb here with a guess that Randy's problems with alcohol and sleeplessness just might stem from his inability as a country music star once-was to come to grips with his longstanding and deep-seated desire to be "forced" to wrestle naked with a bunch of very muscular, well-oiled men in a 100,000-seat stadium on a worldwide satellite feed. While his 103-year-old wife watched from her room at the rest home.

[Eddie Coyle]

At the risk of diagnosing from afar, I'm going out on a limb here with a guess that Randy's problems with alcohol and sleeplessness just might stem from his inability as a country music star once-was to come to grips with his longstanding and deep-seated desire to be "forced" to wrestle naked with a bunch of very muscular, well-oiled men in a 100,000-seat stadium on a worldwide satellite feed. While his 103-year-old wife watched from her room at the rest home.

My father's been saying that for 25 years. Travis' Ted Danson like aptitude for picking mates certainly calling his lifestyle into question. And his music genre is easily the least likely to accept a male star living an alternative lifestyle. Until then, he'll rack up more and more ridiculous arrests until he makes a Richard Chamberlain like shocking announcement to sell a book...when he's 73.

[ItsOver]

At the risk of diagnosing from afar, I'm going out on a limb here with a guess that Randy's problems with alcohol and sleeplessness just might stem from his inability as a country music star once-was to come to grips with his longstanding and deep-seated desire to be "forced" to wrestle naked with a bunch of very muscular, well-oiled men in a 100,000-seat stadium on a worldwide satellite feed. While his 103-year-old wife watched from her room at the rest home.

...that or he'd seen "The Terminator" a tad too many times and the time just seemed right for a little time travelling..."It seemed like a good idea at the time."

[Eddie Coyle]

 
      First off, I violated my code of rejecting anything calling itself a "hidden history". That annoys me. Here's what really annoys me. So I'm on page 7 of Lamar Waldron's "Watergate: The Hidden History :  Nixon, The Mafia and the CIA.

        On page 7 we have this sentence by Mr Waldron, who is devaluing Woodward and Bernstein. Here goes.

         "It's often overlooked that Woodward and Bernstein's book was completely in Feburary 1974, just six months before Nixon resigned on August 6, 1974"

        Anybody else horrified by that? Now granted, I'm a freak when it comes to dates, but for Christ's sake, this cocksucker has the audacity to declare this book a definitive history and he can't even get the basics correct. How the fuck can I trust anything this twit put forth in the book after this shit. Nixon addressed the nation on the night of August 8, 1974, resigning the next day, Friday August 9, 1974. I was born 10 months after this. Waldron was born in '54. Nixon's resignation is a "where were you" event. Inexcusable.

             Good thing I took this piece of shit out of the library, I'd be apoplectic if I bought it and discovered such shoddy work.

*update. I've read 86 pages of this book. It's awful. Reminds me of the terribly dubious Dick Russell book on the JFK assassination. This fuckin' book is nothing but a compendium of other previously reported bits and pieces from say..Mark Lane or Anthony Summers. So Waldron is basically giving you 5th generation material. What a waste.

[ponyboysunset]

Any host of a show (Clyde Lewis does this all the time) who constantly uses the word meme. It's annoying, to the point of me turning off their show, even if I am interested in a topic. Not everything is a conspiracy, and while I find conspiracy theories entertaining, they are just that, entertainment. I miss Art in these times, he knew how to interview a guest, and didn't resort to lame words like meme.

[stevesh]

But I don't think we can yet say that humans are prisoners of their chemistry, if for no other reason than such an attitude denies the existence of free will. Such an attitude means human intellect as well is a fraud and meaningless.

One word: pheromones.

[stevesh]

When you come to a CoastGab thread where a really interesting conversation went on for which you have the perfect reply, but it was four pages ago, and everyone else has moved on.

[Pragmier]

Four pages is what, 1 hour in coastgab years? Go for it.

[Sardondi]

One word: pheromones.

I want a human pheromone patch like they somehow came up with to put on Matt Damon in Ocean's Thirteen. And then I think I'll go for a spin in my flying Jetson's car to my underwater glass home off Bermuda.

[ItsOver]

Any host of a show (Clyde Lewis does this all the time) who constantly uses the word meme. It's annoying, to the point of me turning off their show, even if I am interested in a topic. Not everything is a conspiracy, and while I find conspiracy theories entertaining, they are just that, entertainment. I miss Art in these times, he knew how to interview a guest, and didn't resort to lame words like meme.

Same problem here.  Clyde seems to have OCD with the word "meme."  It appears to be one of the words of the moment.  At least he's not saying "awesome meme."  :

[ponyboysunset]

Same problem here.  Clyde seems to have OCD with the word "meme."  It appears to be one of the words of the moment.  At least he's not saying "awesome meme."  :

Indeed on the awesome part. Funny, I was reading the noory sucks thread and just saw your quote regarding the meme. Oh noes, coincidence! I think not! He also seems to know all these things he keeps saying he can't tell us, but he can hint at. If he turned down his Alex Jones type rants, and interviewed more guests he would be better. I don't hate him per say, just think he could be better, and that for some reason pisses me off more. It's like a half-assed attempt.


btw, love your avatar.

[HorrorRetro]

Same problem here.  Clyde seems to have OCD with the word "meme."  It appears to be one of the words of the moment.  At least he's not saying "awesome meme."  :

Yeah, his continuous pareidolia is starting to border on Hoagland-level paranoia.  Sometimes a meteorite is just a meteorite.  :   The Die Hard movie just released doesn't have secret information hidden in it just because parts of it took place in Russia and it was released around the time the meteorite hit.  He does far better when there's a guest with a solid topic.  His stream of consciousness rants get old very quickly.  I'll keep listening and hope he gets better, or I'll dump him just like I dumped C2C.

[ponyboysunset]

Yeah, his continuous pareidolia is starting to border on Hoagland-level paranoia.  Sometimes a meteorite is just a meteorite.  :   The Die Hard movie just released doesn't have secret information hidden in it just because parts of it took place in Russia and it was released around the time the meteorite hit.  He does far better when there's a guest with a solid topic.  His stream of consciousness rants get old very quickly.  I'll keep listening and hope he gets better, or I'll dump him just like I dumped C2C.

I mainly listen to old Art shows on stream, or ones I have on a playlist on my ipod, or a few other select shows. But I am always searching for new things to listen to, as I have an office job with endless hours to kill, and I can only listen to music so long. I am listening to Clyde for now, and agree with the dumping him if I need to.

[Eddie Coyle]

Yeah, his continuous pareidolia is starting to border on Hoagland-level paranoia.  Sometimes a meteorite is just a meteorite.  :   The Die Hard movie just released doesn't have secret information hidden in it just because parts of it took place in Russia and it was released around the time the meteorite hit.  He does far better when there's a guest with a solid topic.  His stream of consciousness rants get old very quickly.  I'll keep listening and hope he gets better, or I'll dump him just like I dumped C2C.

          That's exactly it. Simpleton George, whose mind cannot handle abstractions or complexities of any sort, is under the impression that since "there are no coincidences", everything must signify something else. How this clown isn't in Mexico praying to a fermented Kraft Single that is shaped like Jesus' beard is beyond me.